It isn't you. It's the world we live in. I quit dating apps almost as soon as they became a thing. So it isn't just men. Here's a guy that's written about it, twice.

https://medium.com/hello-love/dear-dating-app-goodbye-its-not-you-it-s-me-20ca7f13f0ed

https://medium.com/sex-and-satire/im-a-broken-man-who-needs-to-get-some-help-before-i-start-dating-again-9e5b0faa38e7