Maybe not every man. Less than a month ago I walked out of a 20 year on again off again relationship for this very reason. He just wasn't giving me what I needed even when I told him what that was. He's gotten worse over the years, not better.

So why didn't I cut it off for good sooner? He was career military. When we met he was finishing up a 19 month tour of duty in Afghanistan. While I have PTSD too his is off the charts.

So I always questioned how much of what he does and says is him and how much of it is his PTSD? I gave him a lot of leeway but have always known him to be arrogant. He needs constant attention and reassurance. His FB page has a photo of all of the awards he was given over the years while he served. He had them all out on the stairs leading up to the second floor of the house.

This is on his personal page, not a business one. It would be one thing to do that on a business page if he were looking for work in that field. Sort of like a resume. But on a page that's only family and friends to start with... uh we know you're hot sh!t and don't need to be reminded.

So which came first the chicken or the egg here? Has he always been a d!ck and I just didn't see it or did him fighting overseas just completely screw him up?